I remember back when I was in Army basic training I was listening to one of my drill sergeants rail about some task that we as a squad did not complete in a timely enough fashion and how it was curtains for the free world because of our sluggardness, when he said something rather profound. In a loud commanding voice, that reached a decibel that seems reserved only for drill sergeants, he bellowed out “there are only two people who love you in this world, God and your mama…neither which are here at the moment!” At which point we were introduced to the front leaning rest (push-ups) where I could have the time to reflect on what he said.
And he spoke the truth (well not about God…He’s with me always). But mom wasn’t there to take care of me that day, I was my own man and the point was we were on or own. I’ve often joked with my mom that God gave me to her to humble her. What I mean by that is very simply how night and day my sister and I are in personality. My sister was the quiet type of baby, always soaking in her surroundings…very content on being quiet and doing her own little thing or just watching the world. She was the type of baby that would fuss for a minute or two, uttering a few cries to let mom know she was hungry, or needed to be changed, or was disturbed by something. Had she done something wrong a simple dissatisfied glare was enough to put an end to any shenanigans. Which is where I like to tease my mom. God saw my mom’s pride since my sister was the perfect child and decided to test her. Thus, He gave her a son. A loud, boisterous, rambunctious little ball of energy. Oh, and by little ball of energy I mean 10 lbs of baby boy.
I have wondered before if my mom would have known the challenge God was about to present her that stormy night some 30 odd years ago in the form of a son if she would have thought twice about expanding the family.
In various discussions with people I’ve had conversations with in life about God, inevitably I get asked two questions about Him: how do you know God exists and how do you know He loves you? The first question is easy to answer in my book…I think Billy Graham summed it up best when he said “Can you see God? Have you ever seen Him? I’ve never seen the wind. I’ve seen the effects of the wind, but I’ve never seen the wind. There’s a mystery to it!” That’s a statement about faith. If you seek the wind you will feel the effects and you realize what it is. Similar concept to God when you think about realizing that He does exist. He will and does reveal Himself to those who seek Him. The second question I’ve thought hard about. I could say things such as He sent His only Son to die for my sins and offer the gift of salvation. I could say He provides my daily needs such as a surprise reimbursement check when money is tight and the bills are due. These things are all true. But here is a little way that I think everyone can understand…He gave us mothers. The characteristics of God show up in His construction of a mother’s love. Just a few of the very traits of God that He instilled in moms:
Patience = Love – Oh how I tested my mom’s patience growing up. A battle of wills. My sister related a story about me not wanting to take a bath as a child. I fought with mom all the way…I didn’t see her rational thinking of needing to be clean if I was just going to go outside the next day and play in the dirt again. After much fussing, fidgeting and argument (and the threat of backup…dad) I finally took my bath. Other times I just didn’t want to do something and mom would “out-wait” me. I mean, we’ve all been there staring at a plate of brussel spouts or some other green vegetable right? Mom knows it is something healthy that will build our bodies. We look at it and say it is green. Amazing what a little cheese will do for it though, yeah? We all do this (and I’m one of the chief offenders) with God. We do things our own ways, justify why we should or should not do something and go about our merry way. Ecclesiasties 7:8 says “The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.” God has patience in His dealings with us. He is slow to anger and bears much. He allows us to just act out sometimes, waiting for us to wear ourselves out, or vent our frustrations, and gently envelops us in His arms. That patience equals love. Your mother leads you with patience…that patience comes from love and ultimately leads to the greater matter of life. Exodus 15:13 tells us “In your unfailing love you will lead the people you have redeemed. In your strength you will guide them to your holy dwelling.” God leads us with patience, and that patience comes from an unfailing love.
Care – I had two years of my childhood robbed from me by a disease. I was bedridden for a little over 6 months and very restricted on activities after I was back on my feet. The thing is, I didn’t present with any symptoms. It was my mother’s knowledge of her child that pushed us off to the doctor. As a little one I enjoyed playing soccer. One season my mom noticed that I wasn’t as aggressive at running and active in the game. She also noticed that I tended to push up on pieces of furniture instead of just bouncing up the way children often do. Although she asked if I was in pain and I would answer “no”, her mom sense went into overtime. For her, the care for her son came before friends, daily distractions, work or career. Mom knew her child. She had a connection that others can’t explain, and something that is reserved by God for the connection between mother and child. Because of my mom’s attention to her child and her actions, what could have crippled me for life was caught in time and I was able to grow up and be a healthy man. Just like a mother knows her child, God knows you. Pslam 139:13 says “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” Moving over to a smaller book that is often overlooked, Nahum 1:7 says “The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him…” God’s got your back and best interest. As a child I couldn’t understand the full extent of what was happening to me. All I knew was I couldn’t walk. I had to trust in my mom that what she was doing was going to make me better. We have to trust God for our care.
Preparation – Let’s face it. A father loves his child, and he has a very serious role to play in the preparation of a child’s life (especially a boy’s). But a mother is a constant center of the child’s life. She guides and prepares them for success as well as failures by equipping them with the tools necessary to meet life’s challenges. My mom made me learn how to type. Oh I hated it at first. Especially when she would hold a piece of paper over my hands where I could no longer see the keys. I’d grumble, I’d moan. Never really understood how a quick brown fox jumping over a lazy dog would bring about the time for all good men to come to the aid of their county. But she kept after me. Today I almost take it for granted being able to type 75 words per minute, but often I am thankful for that preparation. I can do good work at the office because I have been taught. God prepares us by His instruction book the Bible. Scripture tells us in 2nd Timothy 3:16-17 “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” God put moms in charge of building their babies in the womb, of developing them as a child and preparing them for life. People ask how does a mom do it? My mom did it with God’s Word. Best little instruction book ever.
Forgiveness – I’ve done many stupid things in my life. And I’ve been and disciplined. But I’ve also been forgiven time and time again by her love. I got caught once throwing dirt clods at cars driving by. Something stupid and dangerous. I realized what I had done was dumb even by little boy standards. I still remember sitting on my bed thinking all that mom would do. The wrath of mom fussing and spanking the son that continually tried her patience. You know what, she surprised me. She calmly sat down and talked to me, explained what I did was wrong…accepted my apology and forgave me. And it was topped off with a hug. God does that…from the smallest little infraction to the most heinous and horrible of evils. God is love and has not only the power but the sole authority to offer forgiveness. What makes it grand, is He’s already extended his forgiveness by sending His one and only Son, Jesus Christ to die for our sins. And what makes it best is it is FREE. Romans 6:23 tells us “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” and Ephesians 2:8 says “For it is by grace that you are saved through faith, it is the gift of God.” We understand when our mother, who loves us, forgives us for doing things…why then are we surprised that God, whose love surpasses human understanding, is willing to forgive us if we just ask?
Discipline – Who likes to be disciplined? No one really enjoys it. But as you grow up 85% of your correction in your life up to age 18 most likely comes from your mother. Whether it is a stern no, a swift smack to the hand, pop on the derrière, or being grounded…as you grow you quickly realize the discipline comes and stems from love. It is there to provide correction out of care (whoah! a previous mentioned trait!) because she loves you and wants the best for you. She does not want harm to befall you and provides the “rod of correction” to ultimately keep you safe. One of my most favorite memories occurred in the family kitchen. I was frustrating my mom (trying her patience perhaps?) and she remarked “you still aren’t too big to spank”. I quipped “oh can you reach that high?” We both fell about laughing because I tower over my mother a full foot and some change. But the point was although she used her patience, care and forgiveness more than her discipline it was still a part of the love she had for me. It just so happens that my discipline happened to be a paddle that she cut the little string and red bouncy ball off. Side note…I think there are millions of little red balls all over America that have an elastic string attached to them and are missing their paddle home. I think I’ll market just the paddle and save moms all over the world from having to cut the string and make millions on the act of spanking. The Father loves you enough to discipline you as well when you begin to step too far out of line. I know, I’ve been there. But Scripture is clear about God’s love for us through discipline. Proverbs 29:15 says “The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother”. And Job 5:17 tells me “Blessed is the man whom God corrects; so do not despise the discipline of the Almighty”. God’s correction arises from His patience, care, preparation and forgiveness for us.
I couldn’t begin to fathom the thoughts that went through Mary’s head as she watched Christ freely give His life on that rugged cross. But take a moment to look at her love for her baby boy. While almost all others had forsaken Him, denied Him, cursed Him, spat at and on Him, beaten Him and mocked Him and deserted Him…she stood at the cross…I can only imagine doing her best to comfort Him just by being there. I can only imagine as the tears flowed from her eyes watching Christ die she wanted Him to know she loved him with all that a human mother’s heart could offer.
Now magnify that by eternity and you just begin to taste the love God the Father and Jesus Christ have for you. When people ask me to prove God exists in some way, I just say look at our moms. It’s about as close to a physical example of His love as we will get. When you are a child and you cry out your mother’s ears draw her to you to provide comfort, protection, and the warmth of her loving arms wrapped around you. God stands ready and His ears are always attentive and ready for you to call out to Him. Call out to Jesus. Cry out to Him. And He will draw nigh. Just as with your mother, the bottom line of your actions, your mistakes, your misdeeds, your faults, your failures, God the Father and Jesus Christ still love you and will not forsake you. Just as with your mother, your joys, your successes, your accomplishments are things that God takes pleasure in providing you and equipping you to achieve. God has unfathomable patience and love for you, unsurpassed care for your well-being, forgiveness is always freely offered, and the guiding rod to shepherd you to success bringing glory to His name.
So on this mother’s day take a moment to reflect all the things our mother’s do for us. But more importantly take time to think about what God has done for you. If you have questions please feel free to contact me on the “about” page. I am always willing to talk to anyone about what I believe and why I believe.
I love you mom. Thanks for showing me God’s love in physical form, for the patience you’ve shown me. The care you’ve always given. The forgiveness even when not deserved. And the corrective rod…err paddle…when needed. You gave me the building blocks to become the man I have today. But most importantly, thank you for taking the time to introduce me to Jesus. He saved my life.
Love from your 10lbs baby boy.
~Kryptikos
Isaiah 66:13 “As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.”
P.S. Sorry mom, couldn’t resist and thought these little cartoons were appropriate…they made me chuckle. Especially the first one. Does it sound familiar?














